Don’t Let Jealousy Destroy Your Relationship
When you’re in a relationship person, it’s often difficult not to experience feelings of jealousy at times. However, it’s important to be aware that these feelings can often do more harm than good if you don’t deal with them adequately.
Jealousy generally stems from feelings we have with ourselves of being inadequate or not being worthy of the love of another person. It can emerge as anger, sadness or even paranoia within the relationship.
The worst part is, usually, there is no reason for such jealousy. The best thing to do is learn to deal with these feelings and try to keep them from coming up in the first place.
Below are some tips to help you deal with those jealous feelings you’ve been having:
1. Evaluate your relationship.
Take a look at your relationship and see if it is built on a solid foundation. Has it been built on trust and respect? If so, the problem most likely isn’t within your relationship. If nothing has happened to make you distrust your partner then you need to look within yourself.
2. Evaluate yourself.
Take a good, honest look at yourself and see if there are underlying problems that could be causing you to feel jealous. Do you suffer from low self-esteem and do you often criticize yourself? If so, it’s a priority to find a way to get over those feelings of insecurity. If you don’t feel secure in who you are, it will be very difficult for you to expect others to be secure about you. Always focus on all of the positive things you bring to the relationship and all of the positive things about yourself.
3. Recognize when you feel jealous.
What’s causing you to feel jealous in your relationship? Is it because your partner spoke to another person and you felt it was inappropriate? Did you partner become friends with someone on social media that you find to be a possible threat? What’s suddenly changed to male you decide that your partner doesn’t still love you? Being able to recognize what has made you jealous in the first step in trying to deal with this feeling.
4. Share your feelings with someone.
Talk to your friends about your feelings and see what they think. They will help you see things from a different perspective and will also be able to reassure you that your relationship is solid no matter what feelings are swirling within you.
It’s understood that you can’t completely control your emotions, but you do need to learn how to deal with them. Jealousy has destroyed many relationships and, in most cases the, jealousy was unwarranted. Don’t let your relationship be one that falls in with the statistics.
Know who you are and where your relationship stands. Once that foundation is in place the jealousy will begin to fade and you will be able to move forward with your partner.