Your relationship is one of the most important things you will ever have in your life but every day there are choices that will occur in that relationship. Some of the choices are small and wouldn’t have a big impact and some of could cause huge ripples in your relationship. Regardless, are you making the right ones in your relationship? If not now, you might want to consider rethinking the relationship.

Do you pay attention to what your partner is saying to you or do you just blow them off and pretend to be listening when you really aren’t? It’s easy to take your significant other for granted, but put yourself in their shoes. Would you want them to do that to you? Really choose to listen to your partner. You might be surprised at some of the things they say.

Do you say “thank you” when your partner does something nice for you? Do you say it when they take out the trash or load the dishwasher? If you don’t, you should. Let your partner know that the little things they do matter too. Make the choice to say “thank you” more often and chances are, your partner will feel more appreciated and begin to do.

Do you always have to have the last word in an argument? Or do you sometimes agree to disagree with your partner? Being the one to walk away from an argument or disagreement will sometimes make you the bigger person, and when you agree to disagree with your partner it reduces the stress level in the relationship. Choose to be the one who walks away and both of you will be happier for it in the end. It’s ok if you don’t always agree; you are of course, only human.

Do you and your partner still do impromptu things? Do you just get up in the morning and decide to take a day trip to spend some time together? If not, you should. Doing things spur-of-the-moment will keep you both on your toes and will keep your relationship fresh. Choose to do something out of the ordinary once a week and your relationship will continue to grow.

Do you do things to take care of yourself and then feel guilty about it? Do you feel like you are taking time away from your partner when you do something on your own? If this is happening to you, you really need to make the choice to care for yourself without the guilt. We all need to take care of ourselves so that we can be a better partner and a better person.

Start today by choosing to do of few of these things mentioned and you will start to see changes, big and small, in your relationship. By making a few small changes in yourself and the way you think about your relationship, you are making the choice to be a good partner and the payoff from that might surprise you.